THE BEST APOLOGY
DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S FEELINGS.
"I'm sorry you're mad" is not an apology its condescending.
DO APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS AND ATTITUDE.
"I'm sorry I was rude",is an apology that takes ownership.
be specific about what you did wrong.
'I'm sorry for whatever made you mad is NOT going to work.
DON'T ADD AN EXCUSE TO YOUR APOLOGY.
'I'm sorry I was rude, but I was really irritated," means you're not really sorry.You feel justified for the way you acted and you expect to be a excuse.One way to remember this is that when you say "I'm sorry,but..." you're really just a sorry ass.
DO ASK FOR FORGIVENESS WHEN YOU APOLOGIZE.
"I'm sorry", on its own,is just a statement.It requires no response."Will you forgive me?" is a humble request that can rebuild a relationship. when you ask your partner to forgive you, wait listen.Be prepared for them to say in respond,"I need a minute, I'm not there right now."when you are in wrong, you are never owed forgiveness .Be grateful when you receive it.
DON'T EXPECT A RECIPROCAL APOLOGY.
lets say you were in a fight you were both rude and hostile to each other and now you've decided to be the brave one and apologize first.Do not apologize expecting your partner to apologize equally when you recognize you have done something wrong,just own your part of it.The end.
DO ATTEMPT TO MAKE A REPAIR.
Once you get through the brutal,"I'm sorry will you forgive me?" its wise to make the next step and ask,"is there anything I can do to make this right?".
"I'm sorry you're mad" is not an apology its condescending.
DO APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS AND ATTITUDE.
"I'm sorry I was rude",is an apology that takes ownership.
be specific about what you did wrong.
'I'm sorry for whatever made you mad is NOT going to work.
DON'T ADD AN EXCUSE TO YOUR APOLOGY.
'I'm sorry I was rude, but I was really irritated," means you're not really sorry.You feel justified for the way you acted and you expect to be a excuse.One way to remember this is that when you say "I'm sorry,but..." you're really just a sorry ass.
DO ASK FOR FORGIVENESS WHEN YOU APOLOGIZE.
"I'm sorry", on its own,is just a statement.It requires no response."Will you forgive me?" is a humble request that can rebuild a relationship. when you ask your partner to forgive you, wait listen.Be prepared for them to say in respond,"I need a minute, I'm not there right now."when you are in wrong, you are never owed forgiveness .Be grateful when you receive it.
DON'T EXPECT A RECIPROCAL APOLOGY.
lets say you were in a fight you were both rude and hostile to each other and now you've decided to be the brave one and apologize first.Do not apologize expecting your partner to apologize equally when you recognize you have done something wrong,just own your part of it.The end.
DO ATTEMPT TO MAKE A REPAIR.
Once you get through the brutal,"I'm sorry will you forgive me?" its wise to make the next step and ask,"is there anything I can do to make this right?".
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